We all have desires. Some we’re afraid to admit to ourselves let alone tell others about. Once we’ve allowed ourselves to know and speak our truth; we’ve put it out there in the universe. Often it takes time for our desires to be manifested and we can get impatient or give up on them. However, often it takes time for our desires to manifest because we are getting in the way. I’ve been told, told myself and I’ve told others many times to “get out of your own way.”
Below are 5 essential tips I’ve found helpful to manifesting our desires and “staying out of your own way” and get in alignment with our desires.
1. Pray for guidance, patience and the ability to let go
Pray to God or your higher power and know that your desire is for your highest good. Prayers are part of my daily rituals and I’m a firm believer that my desires will make it possible for me to achieve my life purpose. In my prayers I ask for guidance, patience, and the ability to let go of how it’s all going to happen. Letting go of the “how” and being patient have been really hard for me and I continue to pray and practice. When you pray, ask for guidance as it sends a message that you are willing and inviting God to manifest things in your life. I recommend this daily prayer from A Course In Miracles: “Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say, and to whom?”
2. Believe that you deserve and are worthy of your desires
Believing without a doubt that we deserve and are worthy of our desires is very important as doubts create a delay in the manifestation. Recently, I was talking to a business associate and I was sharing about how I’m really getting this in my life now. I became aware through reading, talking, and reflecting that I actually don’t fully believe that I can really experience some of my desires. I realized that deep down inside I had some belief that I didn’t deserve them or I was being unrealistic. So I chose to remove all doubts and truly believe that I deserve and am worthy of my desires. I’ve used and continue to use mantras and affirmations in removing my doubts. I use and love this mantra: “I am open to receive.”
3. Create a vision board or write a descriptive vision of your desires (Envision)
Creating and having a vision board is powerful and fun. You can even get some friends together and have a vision board party. 🙂 A vision board is where you post images and/or words of your desires or something that represents them. You can also write on it! I also write a vision of my desires being manifested and how I would feel. This really helps you enjoy the process. A few years ago I was living in a basement and while it worked for a while at some point, I wanted a bigger space with my own full kitchen and more sunshine. I had a hard time finding a place I could afford in the city I wanted to live in. I was frustrated, sad and stuck. Writing and reading my vision of my home, how I would feel and the atmosphere shifted my mood and got me excited about what was coming. In a short time, I moved into an apartment with big windows and got exactly what I envisioned. It took me getting out of my own way for my new home to become a reality.
Looking at my vision board recently, I realized that I am experiencing many of the things on there. An example, I wanted to have a healthy lifestyle and I can truly say today that I am living it as I eat clean regularly, teach 3 zumba classes and practice yoga 3-4 times a week. At the time I created the vision board, some of these were barely existent. Keep your vision board around, look at it often and if you no longer desire something, remove it. Our desires change; it’s normal as many times as we grow and are in different stages in life, our desires may change.
4. Act and feel like you already have your desire
As a coach I always ask my clients, how will they feel once they get what they want? Knowing how we will feel is important as we can choose to feel it before our desires are manifested if we are willing to act like they are here. If it is feeling joy, we can practice feeling joy. Our desires will manifest faster when we are in alignment with them. While it’s not easy; feeling sad, stuck or frustrated won’t help and it will only keep our desires from us. That is exactly what I did when I was waiting to find my apartment. So everyday say to yourself: “I know the object of my desire has already been chosen for me and will be here soon.” When we are excited and getting ready to go on a fabulous getaway or a party, we are excited and feel great, right? It is the same thing, so get ready for the party!
5. Choose wisely who you share your deepest desires with
When we’re excited about our desires, many of us tend to want to share them with others. While that’s great, you want to choose wisely who you share your deepest desires with as many times we have our own fears regarding them. You know how they say “if your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough?” This is true and I know everything I’ve set out to do that was huge and has been a stepping-stone to me becoming the person I am meant to be has been scary. The reason why you want to choose wisely who you share your deepest desires with is because some people have their own fears, they may project them unto you and then you will need to contain your fears and theirs. I’ve had people who were really excited for me, offered support and compassion and others that were questioning everything. While I get that it wasn’t about me and it was about them, it didn’t feel good. These are times when you need those who support your vision, see possibilities, are excited and living their own dreams around you.
The keys to experiencing our desires is to pray for guidance and know you will be guided to take the appropriate actions, believe you are worthy of them, create a vision, let go of the how, trust, act and feel like your desires are here, and share the excitement and joy with those who will lift you higher. So let’s start getting ready for the party by putting the music on and dance!
I’d love to hear your thoughts and please share your own tips to manifesting your desires, thanks!
Love and light!