Are You Forgiving and Accepting?

 Are you accepting and forgiving of what is in your life?

Today I wanted to share with you something I’ve known for a while and coach others on and got a reminder that at times whether I’m coaching or preparing for a presentation, I’m coaching and teaching on something I need to learn as well. An incident this weekend made me realize it was time for me to share it. I hope you’ll get something from me sharing myself with you.

After a fun day out in the country in Maryland with friends this past Saturday, I came home happy, tired and had some work to do as this day trip wasn’t planned until late the night before. I got online and saw something that brought up some thoughts. I started feeling upset, bothered and I thought I was over this. I reached out to a friend to talk and felt better but after I got off the phone, I realized I was still bothered, hurt and feeling all sorts of emotions. I said to myself:  “Don’t go there….no no no.” I wanted to numb my feelings as I thought they were inappropriate. Then I said, let me coach myself. I usually don’t coach myself and thought why not, go for it! I started asking myself those questions: Why are you feeling this way? What is this telling you? What do you truly want? As I started answering them, I realized that accepting my feelings and forgiving myself for being hard on me was more important in this moment. I got that acceptance and forgiveness were needed in order to transform this. Once I got that, I started feeling compassionate towards myself, sent love and light to the other person and started to think about steps I’ll take that will lead to lasting transformation.

I Wasn’t Accepting My Body and Forgiving Myself

This can be used in many situations and a few weeks ago, I got to this same realization over something else. A few months ago I lost some weight and while I was wanted to, I lost more than I wanted to and I’ve been bothered by this. People are noticing  and some of my clothes don’t fit anymore. If you read my wellness journey, I’ve had issues putting and keeping weight on for most of my teens and late 20s and it all changed once I hit 30. Telling me I lost weight used to be the same as telling some people they gain weight. Our feelings about our body issues are the same even if they appear differently in some of us.  Once I hit my 30s, I was able to put on and keep weight on; I loved it. Last year, I wanted to lose 5 lbs and while I wasn’t making a fuss about it, they seem to be the hardest to lose.

Last September when I discovered Kundalini Yoga, I fell in love and started practicing 3-4 times a week while teaching 2 Zumba classes and walking a lot. Then in the beginning of the year, I added another Zumba class. I was basically working out 6-7 times a week in addition to my walking routine. I increased my physical activity because I enjoyed what I was doing; I lost the weight I wanted to lose and was on cloud nine! This all changed after I did a 14-day cleanse that involved food but of course certain things were out and got the flu right after this…. Now let me say, there is nothing wrong with a 14-day cleanse that involves food, it’s just not something for someone my size and my physical activities at the time and the fact that I got sick right after didn’t help. (Lesson learned and suggestion: Find out what type of cleanse works for your body type and your physical activity or maybe take it easy during the cleanse.) I’m now working on gaining weight and it’s not happening as fast I want to. I’ve talked to and coached people around having a healthy lifestyle, losing weight and maintaining weight and I always tell them they need to start by loving and accepting their bodies just the way it is now and forgiving themselves for not loving their bodies.

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A few weeks ago, I got upset and felt bad whenever I was reminded of my weight lost when I would want to wear something and it no longer fit or someone made a comment about my weight lost. I noticed this was becoming a sensitive issue for me. I had gone back to feeling insecure about my body. It dawn on me that I need to follow my own advice to accept and love my current weight as it is the only way that I will get back to my ideal weight again. As I coach my clients or anyone, I’m also learning to love and accept my body and forgive myself for not liking it or anything I may have done in this process.

I was also reminded that forgiveness isn’t a one-time act, it’s a continuous one. To truly love is to accept and forgive.

How about you?

I  share this for you to look into your life and see if there is something about you or a situation where you haven’t found peace in. If you still get upset about something or someone, it means that you’re not complete and there are still wounds to heal. What do you need to accept? Who do you need to forgive?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Did anything come up for you? If yes, what steps did you take or are you going to take to start the healing process in order for transformation to occur? Please let me know in the comments section, thank you!

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Love and light!