I wasn’t sure what I wanted to write about this week as it’s very important for me that I feel what I write. Then I realized I wanted to share with you something I really got recently.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Dr. Maya Angelou

This famous quote by Dr. Maya Angelou while I thought it was good never meant a lot to me and being frank, I thought people were exaggerating because of the way so many of them loved it. A few weeks ago when Dr. Angelou passed, this quote was all over social media and my sister and I even talked about it. She was saying that she was tired of seeing this quote and I said I thought it was overrated as there were more powerful quotes by Dr. Angelou. However, recently I changed my mind about this quote.

I can’t recall now exactly where I was, someone said people want to feel good and be around those who make them feel good. Right there, I got it and it truly resonated with me! Not sure why it took me so long :). Recently, I’ve been evaluating some relationships and I’m one who has had a hard time changing my relationships. I really got that I didn’t like the way I feel around some people and while I know, I go within and see what is there for me to learn or see about me in them, I’ve really gotten and chosen to be around those who make me feel good. I got that for my highest good and theirs as well, it is best to not spend as much time with each other. I used to feel guilty about what I wanted before but not anymore as I’m being true to me. I recall my sister telling me to stop trying to figure things out, beat myself up and  if I didn’t feel good around someone then don’t be around them.

Feeling good is very important

Tweetable:[tweetable] Feeling good is very important. When you feel good, you attract good things into your life.[/tweetable]

I do my best to feel good on my own, choose to be around those who make me feel good and I remember that if I feel good then people around me will feel good as well. I truly believe that who you surround yourself with does have an impact on your life. For example, if you want to be happy, hang around happy people. There’s a saying in French that I grew up hearing that says: “Dis-moi qui tu fréquentes, je te dirai qui tu es.” And the English translation is: Tell me who you spend time with and I’ll tell you who you are. When other people don’t feel good about themselves, they won’t make you feel good and while you want to do your best to not allow them to get to you, choosing to not be around them is important. At times it can be more difficult as it can be a family member or someone you’ll need to interact with, in these situations you can choose to limit your interaction with this person. Or if it’s a situation that you aren’t happy with and you cannot change it, walk away.  You need to put your well-being first!

Being true to yourself is important to feel good

This year one of the intentions I set for myself is to be true to me and at times it means ending or changing relationships that don’t make me feel good. I’ve learned that it is okay to choose to not be around people who don’t make me feel good. I know this is important to my well-being and for me to achieve my goals. Being around people who don’t make you feel good will suck the life out of you and keep you from accomplishing your goals. It’s always your choice; you get to choose who and what takes up your energy and time.

How are you feeling and are there people in your life that you don’t feel good around? Are there situations you’re currently in that aren’t serving your highest good?  How do you make people feel?

I’m inviting you to think about these questions and get really honest with yourself while doing them. Maybe there are conversations you need to have or boundaries that need to be set in your relationships.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, tell me in the comments section below what changes will you be making in your life to help you feel good more! And if you enjoyed this, please share it with others thank you!

Love and light!