I’ve been told I’m someone who doesn’t give a fuck/care much about what people think about me and live my life fully. I agree and I must admit I wasn’t always like this. It took me a while to get there and it’s a conscious, daily, and often moment to moment choice I make. And like everyone else, I experience fear doing so; I just don’t allow it to stop me.
You can live fully too, you can live a life where you don’t give a fuck too. Well I mean not caring what others think about you and being true to you as that’s what it boils down to.
To me not giving a fuck is living a life where I choose to be true to myself and still come from a place of love. Often society tells us that living that life makes you someone who is selfish and rude. I totally disagree with this because living fully and being myself have made me a more loving and compassionate person who also has strong boundaries which I’m still developing.
Here Are 16 Ways To Not Give A Fuck In 2018:
- Follow your heart; if it feels good, do it. Make feeling good and being true to yourself a priority in your life. Let go of your need to look good. Remember this isn’t about harming others especially intentionally, cause no harm to others.
2. Don’t allow people’s opinions to stop you from doing or saying something you feel called to.
3. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes, do it anyway. Choose to be true to yourself.
4. Take time to really know who you are and know what you value then make sure you are living a life that is aligned to your core values. One of my core values is fun which is why no one can stop me from dancing, singing, and playing no matter what I make time for them in my life. What are your core values?
5. Learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Living life fully in our society is uncomfortable and totally worth it because it’s freeing too. And you’ll be happier!
6. Share at least one of your passions with the world for example: dancing and singing like no one is watching. Whatever it is you’re passionate about, do it often and don’t care about what others think. It’s your thing, it’s about you, and those who get a chance to see you in your zone of genius aka your tribe will appreciate you for it. Most of all do it for your soul and heart, they need it.
7. Stop asking people for their opinions before you take action, if it doesn’t work out you’ll learn something from it. I get there are many times you may consult with a trusted friend or coach or mentor but really start practicing taking action without needing others’ approval. You must learn to be able to stand alone knowing you belong to yourself and many times you may not be in agreement with those around you even those in your tribe. Be brave and bold!
8. Practice not taking things personally because whatever people say and do is really about them. This one is huge because people will always have something to say and in order for you to be happy you really need to get this one. When you start living fully and don’t give a fuck about what they think, some will project their own fears and insecurities onto you. Some will envy you and wish they had the courage you have to be yourself. Keep being you, keep it moving. And yes, it may mean ending some relationships because as you grow and evolve, you’ll outgrow some relationships. It’s part of the journey and you’ll all be fine.
9. Really get we’re all imperfect beings with our strengths and flaws and those who may say something about you don’t have it together themselves.
10. Choose to love yourself and make it a daily practice. This is another huge and necessary one. Loving yourself fully is necessary in order to live life fully and not give a fuck because you must love the person you are just as you are to allow her to show up and be seen.
11. Get really present to the fact you only have one life to live and ask yourself what do you want to really be doing, who do you really want to be or better yet ask yourself these questions: Who am I? What do I really desire?
12. Choose to not live a life full of what ifs. This is what happens when we don’t take inspired actions in our lives due to fear of other people’s opinions or any other fear.
13. Choose that making an impact through being yourself and speaking your truth boldly is really how you can make the impact you were born to make in the world. You know you were born for more. Living life fully is about being true to yourself and having a purpose you believe in that you are willing to do so because you know it is how you can truly be happy and make an impact on people’s lives.
14. Choose courage over comfort, remember you cannot have both. Everything you desire is outside of your comfort zone.
15. Choose to practice compassion and forgiveness toward yourself. You might feel guilty especially in the beginning and even after as this is a reprogramming from what you probably were raised with so be gentle toward yourself and don’t allow guilt to rule your life. Remember you are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress.
16. Really get and accept that not everyone is going to like you and it’s okay…let’s be real, do you like everyone? I know I don’t….
Since I’ve taken on living my life that way, I’ve repelled and triggered people and I’ve experienced more confidence, love, joy, freedom, happiness and inner peace. I’ve also inspired others to do the same and I’ve attracted people who respect and like me for who I really am.
If you truly want to be happy you need to try those out and remember it’s a conscious moment by moment choice. Be gentle with yourself in the process.
I can’t stress self-love and purpose enough on this, it is my experience we must care deeply for and believe in something and ourselves in order to go for it. It must become non-negotiable to you.
For me being my authentic self by sharing my passions, speaking my truth on topics like politics, social justice, personal development, spirituality are non-negotiable. What is non-negotiable to you?
Once you get your answer to this last question, trust me you’ll find the courage to do the things I mentioned here. Like me you’ll get that your love for yourself and your purpose are bigger than your fears of what will people think. Get really present to what it’s costing you to not live your life fully and to the fact that each time you do so you are giving people power over you.
It’s a process and I’ll still working my way through it. I hope you’ll begin or continue this empowering and freeing journey!
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this and let me know if you tried any of these. Can you relate to what I shared? Do you have some tips on this you want to share with me? Share your thoughts with me in the comment section below.
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With love and light, xo 🙂
Nadjejda